How about virtuous men?

Hello there!

I hope you read this with understanding.

Thanks!

“I can’t cook, it’s a woman’s duty.”

“I don’t know how to handle children, I’m not a woman.”

“Sister Mercy, did you attend the Virtuous Women Summit yesterday?”

“No, I didn’t.”
“Oh you missed! Anyways, you should try and attend the Women like Queen Esther Conference coming up in a fortnight.”

Well well, I wondered to ask…

How often do we have Men’s programme or summit? As often as we have Women’s?

How often are boys taught to be MEN?

How often are men taught to be husbands?

Every now and then there is either one conference, seminar, summit or workshop for women somewhere.
It’s sad how often we do see these teachings frustrated as women become wives.
Some women enter the marriage union trained and fully ready to face the marriage war, only to meet their unprepared or minimally prepared spouses. This thoroughly frustrates the efforts she tries to put in the marriage- efforts that go unacknowledged, unappreciated, unsupported and unmatched.

How do we expect the marriage to work when it takes two to tango?

You hear statements like, “this woman is a good woman, she is so enduring despite all the negative things her husband does.”
Or situations where the woman is both the provider, caretaker, homemaker and everything between, while her husband “lazzies” around.

 But how often do you hear “I take care of my wife, treat her right even though she is unfaithful”?
Is that woman saying “I enjoy everything I do for you (the husband) and our family?”
Would she choose to remain in the marriage if nothing stopped her from leaving?
Is she enjoying or enduring it? Will she choose to be married to you again if given the opportunity?

A lot of women are enduring their marriages, especially “church women”. Not because it wasn’t the “will of God”, but because their men are not willing to learn to keep a marriage (and vice versa, but this is to men).

Some think they know it all, or just don’t see that something isn’t right. When she complains, they say she nags.
MAYBE IF YOU LISTENED PAST THE EMOTIONS IN HER SPEECH, YOU’D BE ABLE TO SEE THAT THERE’S SOMETHING YOU NEED TO FIX.

I realize some of men really want to do right, but they just DON’T KNOW HOW.
Worse still, they don’t know they’re doing anything wrong.

 

Dear Brother,
The way Daddy treated Mummy may not be the right way. Mummy did not complain does not mean she enjoyed it.
Mummy did it like this does not mean wifey must do it like this. Wifey is not Mummy.

This worked for Daddy and Mummy does not mean it will work for you and Wifey. Pray and discuss with Wifey on what works for you both. Don’t forget to seek GODLY counsel too, and let the Holy Spirit guide you two on how to make it work.

 

WHEN YOU GET THAT WOMAN, REMEMBER TO TREAT HER LIKE YOUR GARDEN AND NOT YOUR TROPHY.

I hope you understand?

Thank you, my Beloved Brothers. Grace be multiplied!

 

Yours cheerily,

Debbie.